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Friday, November 21, 2008

Har-row!
That's how we greet each other in the hallways. It's kinda cute. We have a cute hallway. But enough about that.

Tonight I'm spending the night in Maryland at my roommate Tracie's house. She brought along her boyfriend Derek (whom i lovingly call Der-Der). Therefore, I am the wonderful third wheel.

I don't know how many of you have roommates or suite-mates with boyfriends/girlfriends out there or whether you yourself have a boyfriend/girlfriend who comes to visit you/whom you go to visit... but maybe you can understand how I feel. Tracie and Der-Der sleep together every night either in my room, or in Adam's room (Der-Der's roommate). So Adam and I feel like kindred spirits when it comes to sleeping arrangements. It's not that we don't like our roommates, it's just that since they're so.....cuddly.... it's a little bit awkward. It's like sleeping in a room with a married couple. Uncomfortable. We're both afraid of walking in on something (i'll let you use your imagination there) which makes things awkward and uncomfortable for everybody. I need new adjectives besides awkward and uncomfortable, but that's what it is.

The other day Adam and I were talking in the hallway about who was going to get "the kids" that night. He had them the past three nights, so I offered to take them. It was like striking a deal. "I'll take monday thru thursday if you give me the weekend off." "Deal." I felt kinda bad talking about them like that. But that's kinda what the situation has become. It's uncomfortable to be around the two of them because you get the feeling that they just want to be alone and you feel as if you're invading on their private time. It'd be so much easier if they had their own room... But Tracie and I had a talk about it... and honestly it's fine if they sleep together, but it's mostly the walking in on something i'm most worried about. I mean i really don't want to see my roommate in the throes of passion. That's just scarring.

I guess what i'm trying to tell you lovebirds out there is please be respectful of your audience. It's great that you're in a happy relationship and cozy and in love (i'm actually quite jealous that you can be that close), but think about how it makes other people feel too. If you want to make out, get a room. Holding hands and hugging is cute; smacking lips and steaming windows is not. I dont want to be a hypocrite because I know i've been cuddly with my beau, but you've got to understand the boundaries of public and private. If you're one of those with a significant other, talk to your roommate to see if it bothers them. Even if they say it doesn't, come up with a system that'll let them know "i might be busy..." whether it's a tie on the doorknob or the curtains pulled closed. It might be a little embarrassing to admit that you're getting action and your roommate isn't, but it'll save you a lot of trouble in the long run. And don't take advantage of your roommate. I've heard stories of people getting sexiled and having roommate's boyfriends over every weekend with no reprieve... it doesn't make us happy. We just don't bring it up.

Other than that... enjoy! Happy Thanksgiving everyone! It's the holiday season, time for love and happiness and thankfulness all around.

<333 Gealina

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